If you’re prone to perfectionism like me, you are probably pretty hard on yourself. You expect to do things perfectly. And when they don’t go as planned, you beat yourself up and call yourself all sorts of names you wouldn’t call anyone else.
And you probably don’t share this with anyone. You hide it away and feel ashamed for not achieving as you feel you should. You don’t ask for support from others. You don’t say you’re struggling. And sometimes we genuinely don’t have anyone to ask for help.
The problem is that continuing with this type of thinking can keep you from achieving your goals - both with your health and with everything you are striving to be and do. It’s called “all-or-nothing” thinking. There is nothing except perfectly done.
But what is perfectly done? In reality it is unattainable and here is where practicing self-compassion comes in.
Self-Compassion – A Quick Guide
Mindfulness, common humanity, and self-kindness are the components that make up self-compassion. When you practice it you improve productivity, mood, and health.
Here’s how to do this:
Practice this every time you feel you need some support. The more you practice, the more natural self-compassion becomes. And learning to do this for yourself is so important.
When I coach my clients we address “all-or-nothing” thinking and work on practicing self-compassion.
Here's what a client of mine, Cathie*, had to say about her experience with working on and changing this type of thinking:
So, by practicing a little self-compassion and letting go of “all-or-nothing” thinking you too can be the best version of yourself AND achieve those goals. Like Cathie…
* Cathie also lost 12kgs and 77cms over the 12 months we worked together.
To sum it all up:
So many of us suffer from perfectionism or "all-or-nothing" thinking.
This mindset can keep you from achieving your goals - both with your health and with everything you are striving to be and do.
If you’re keen to take this one step further and have a chat about where you could start to make a change with “all-or-nothing” thinking, click the button to schedule a call. It’s FREE and I would love to help you, even if it’s just a little bit, towards those fantastic goals of yours.
Click below to listen to a podcast episode I was interviewed for, about building resilience and my journey to being a Health Coach